# New Love Life

> Dating advice from 5 countries by Valentina — book, video course, and app. Based on The Intimacy Code by Gavriel Shaw.

## Products

- [The Book — New Love Life](https://newlove.life): Personal memoir about dating across Bogotá, Rome, Tokyo, London, and New York. Covers the 5 phases of intimacy, 4 dating disasters, and 12 untranslatable love words. $0.99 on Kindle.
- [24 Lessons Video Course](https://newlove.life/#start): 24 video lessons covering the 5 Phases, 7 Conversations, Dating Disasters, and modern dating trends. $24 one-time purchase.
- [Love Puzl Dating App](https://lovepuzl.app): Dating app that shows minds before faces. Full Intimacy Code course, workbooks, and 7 Conversations question bank available as premium content.
- [Piel con Maria](https://skinscan.guide): AI skin analysis app — confidence starts before the first date.

## Guides

- [Why Do Men Pull Away?](https://newlove.life/guide/why-men-pull-away): Explains the velocity mismatch and Relationship Speedometer concept. Men retreat when emotional pace exceeds comfort zone — the primary masculine fear is failure, not commitment.
- [The 5 Phases of Intimacy](https://newlove.life/guide/5-phases-of-intimacy): Sequential framework — Celebration, Vital Connection, Love Spark, The Big Pay-Off, The Spiral Effect. Each phase builds on the previous one like a relay race.
- [The 4 Dating Disasters](https://newlove.life/guide/dating-disasters): La Papaya (over-giving), La Insistente (pushing for commitment), La Cazadora (chasing), La Reina de Hielo (emotional walls). Fear-based survival strategies, not personality types.
- [Love In Translation](https://newlove.life/guide/love-in-translation): 8 untranslatable love words — koi no yokan (Japanese), dar papaya (Colombian), sprezzatura (Italian), hygge (Danish), saudade (Portuguese), querencia (Spanish), mamihlapinatapai (Yaghan), forelsket (Norwegian).
- [Attachment Styles vs. The Intimacy Code](https://newlove.life/guide/attachment-styles): Attachment theory explains the symptom. The 5 Phases provide the behavioral cure — producing secure attachment as an outcome without diagnosing the reader.

## Key Facts

- Author: Valentina (Italian father, Colombian mother, grew up in hotel lobbies across 4 continents)
- Based on: The Intimacy Code by Gavriel Shaw, shared among women since 2015
- Core frameworks: 5 Phases of intimacy, 7 Conversations that change everything, 4 Dating Disasters
- Languages: English, Spanish, Italian
- Countries dated in: Colombia, Italy, Japan, England, United States
- Publisher: Immortal Ventures LLC

## About Valentina

Valentina is a dating coach and author who dated across 5 countries before discovering The Intimacy Code. She is not a therapist or certified coach — she is someone who was tired of bad dates and found something that actually made sense. Her Italian-Colombian heritage gives her a unique cross-cultural perspective on dating and relationships.

## Contact

- Website: https://newlove.life
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/valentinamystery